Love lies
By: Sue Ellen Damato
“Young people fall in love with the wrong people sometimes” – Moral of the story.
Falling in love is a waste of time and effort, so why bother trying at all?
Nobody expects to find the love of their life in high school, and nobody wants to walk away with a broken heart from falling in love with the wrong person. Love is not worth jumping for romantically when all that comes out of it is an unbearable shattered heart from broken promises.
Love knows no boundaries, but it does come to an end no matter the form of love; there is always a deadline. After surveying 247 students at Plainfield North, 235 of the students argued that all love stories come to an end.
The misconception of high school sweethearts and pure love is that they are always the teenage dream but never a reality. In movies, it’s all about that picture-perfect happily ever after and grand gestures. It’s called acting for a reason. With the bar set so high, many get less than the movies and walk away.
Loving at a young age opens the door to the greatest form of heartbreak that isn’t worth it. Loving someone makes the possibility of a broken heart and shattered feelings even greater.
Instead of being looked at as individuals, you are looked at as a pair. Finding and identifying oneself after a relationship is difficult when once being viewed as someone’s partner to now as an individual is challenging.
So many people are under the misconception that love will solve all their problems, and if they find the right person, it may benefit them and help them become better people. Unfortunately, the sad truth is that until you love yourself, there’s no loving anyone else. That’s the biggest mistake of all: latching onto the hopes that someone else can fix you.
Though many argue that love is more than just a feeling – but a chemical reaction releasing dopamine in the human brain, filling one with excitement, joy, and a thrilling emotion – the agony and pain that is felt when love fails will not be worth that small amount of dopamine.
Love lives
By: Brianna Gonzalez
The pain of loss does not outweigh the pleasure of love.
Butterflies in the stomach, blushing cheeks, and racing hearts are the physical effects of falling in love that lead to greater happiness and fulfillment in everyday life.
According to “Right to Rain” by University of Washington Medicine, “Love is the result of chemical changes that happen in the brain when we meet someone and feel that connection,” said Dr. Larry Zweifel, UW Medicine neuroscientist. “There are long-term changes in our brain when we connect with someone that link us to those individuals, sometimes for life.”
When it comes to love, some say it is the most important human interaction. The spark between two people can make a great change, whether it’s mentally or physically. It can elevate an individual’s mood to feel safe and connected.
According to Live Science, “Falling in love can feel intense and often leaves people giddy and euphoric. But severing that connection can trigger a rush of negative emotions that can feel physically painful too.”
Taking the risk of falling in love teaches more than what is shown. The experience of love can offer the ability to work harder, build up energy, and be emotionally stable.
Just like most things in life, love has its negatives that later on switch into positives. Dealing with a heartbreak can feel like the end of the world, until one day it doesn’t. After those tears, pain and rage, it all makes sense, creating a better version of yourself.
